As of yesterday I am on vacation this week! No, I am not going any place but I have a lot to do. Providing that things go according to plan today I am going to be preparing our home for children! Yes, you read that right.
The whole thing is a long story that I don't want to post all over the internet but the gist of it all is that my husband is the legal (although not actual) father of a set of twins (boy and a girl). They are not living with their Mom currently and she has agreed to allow us to have custody.
I know, the plan doesn't make it permanent but in the future we are going to file to make it permanent and change the kids last names (yes, Mom agreed to that too, actually she suggested it). Really it has me all in a bit of a panic. Wanting to make sure that I have every last detail and know every last detail of every law around this. I am sure that if you listened to my thoughts that you would think that I am either a law dictionary or I have gone mad. Truly I am sort of feeling like both.
Currently I am trying really hard not to get my hopes up until the papers have been signed. Once that happens and the ball is rolling then I will be a bouncing mess of energy with 5 million things to do and trying to get them done all at once. My husband is, as always, careful and cautious and hardly wants to talk about it all let alone anything else at this point.
We do expect that there is going to be a bit of an uproar by some of the Mom's family, but, when it comes down to it, they don't get a say, in fact I don't get one either. Its all between the legal parents.
This may not be my ideal way of becoming a Mom, and in fact I will actually be a step-mom, but it might be the closest thing that I ever get. Even thought its not exactly what I want I am completely excited over it. I am sure that some of you experienced parents may think I am nuts but I really want to experience things like my child (step child) misbehaving, them being sick or hurt (which will scare the life out of me), being told "no" when telling them to do something, and all of these things.... I want to experience the good things too of course. This is all really like a dream come true for me.
Should their Mom stumble upon this, I really want her to know how very special this whole thing is to me. I will cherish every single moment I get with her children and treat them as though they were my own (while respecting her of course). The bond that I will have with them will be so special and dear to my heart, to my soul. Allowing us to do this for the kids and for her, its really a gift. Their Mom has been through a lot and doesn't live an easy life, yet she wants whats best for her children. For that I give her all the respect in the world. These kids are going to be the luckiest kids in the world! They now have a Mom, step-Mom, Dad, 3 sets of grandparents, tons of aunts, uncles and cousins and a whole world of people that are going to love and cherish every moment.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Fingers Crossed
As of yesterday I am on vacation this week! No, I am not going any place but I have a lot to do. Providing that things go according to plan today I am going to be preparing our home for children! Yes, you read that right.
The whole thing is a long story that I don't want to post all over the internet but the gist of it all is that my husband is the legal (although not actual) father of a set of twins (boy and a girl). They are not living with their Mom currently and she has agreed to allow us to have custody.
I know, the plan doesn't make it permanent but in the future we are going to file to make it permanent and change the kids last names (yes, Mom agreed to that too, actually she suggested it). Really it has me all in a bit of a panic. Wanting to make sure that I have every last detail and know every last detail of every law around this. I am sure that if you listened to my thoughts that you would think that I am either a law dictionary or I have gone mad. Truly I am sort of feeling like both.
Currently I am trying really hard not to get my hopes up until the papers have been signed. Once that happens and the ball is rolling then I will be a bouncing mess of energy with 5 million things to do and trying to get them done all at once. My husband is, as always, careful and cautious and hardly wants to talk about it all let alone anything else at this point.
We do expect that there is going to be a bit of an uproar by some of the Mom's family, but, when it comes down to it, they don't get a say, in fact I don't get one either. Its all between the legal parents.
This may not be my ideal way of becoming a Mom, and in fact I will actually be a step-mom, but it might be the closest thing that I ever get. Even thought its not exactly what I want I am completely excited over it. I am sure that some of you experienced parents may think I am nuts but I really want to experience things like my child (step child) misbehaving, them being sick or hurt (which will scare the life out of me), being told "no" when telling them to do something, and all of these things.... I want to experience the good things too of course. This is all really like a dream come true for me.
Should their Mom stumble upon this, I really want her to know how very special this whole thing is to me. I will cherish every single moment I get with her children and treat them as though they were my own (while respecting her of course). The bond that I will have with them will be so special and dear to my heart, to my soul. Allowing us to do this for the kids and for her, its really a gift. Their Mom has been through a lot and doesn't live an easy life, yet she wants whats best for her children. For that I give her all the respect in the world. These kids are going to be the luckiest kids in the world! They now have a Mom, step-Mom, Dad, 3 sets of grandparents, tons of aunts, uncles and cousins and a whole world of people that are going to love and cherish every moment.
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